Comments on: Freedom’s echoes: An afternoon visit with my dad http://ilind.net/2009/09/18/freedoms-echoes-an-afternoon-visit-with-my-dad/ Ian Lind • Online daily from Kaaawa, Hawaii Mon, 13 Feb 2012 23:47:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Joe http://ilind.net/2009/09/18/freedoms-echoes-an-afternoon-visit-with-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-2700 Joe Tue, 22 Sep 2009 01:43:23 +0000 http://ilind.net/?p=3293#comment-2700 I'm in remission from cancer now. If it comes back, I probably won't have to worry about ever reaching the stage of dementia myself. I wonder if it is better to go while fully connected to the outside world, or while slowly making the transition to the next one? I’m in remission from cancer now. If it comes back, I probably won’t have to worry about ever reaching the stage of dementia myself. I wonder if it is better to go while fully connected to the outside world, or while slowly making the transition to the next one?

]]> By: Ian Lind http://ilind.net/2009/09/18/freedoms-echoes-an-afternoon-visit-with-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-2681 Ian Lind Mon, 21 Sep 2009 04:22:26 +0000 http://ilind.net/?p=3293#comment-2681 You are exactly right, and I've commented on this before. It's like a strange anxiety dream when you're awake. I dream about the class that I can't find, decades after my last class. My dad's waking dreams have the same character. As you say, I don't know what this all means. But we cope. You are exactly right, and I’ve commented on this before. It’s like a strange anxiety dream when you’re awake. I dream about the class that I can’t find, decades after my last class. My dad’s waking dreams have the same character. As you say, I don’t know what this all means. But we cope.

]]> By: Andy Parx http://ilind.net/2009/09/18/freedoms-echoes-an-afternoon-visit-with-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-2678 Andy Parx Sun, 20 Sep 2009 23:19:31 +0000 http://ilind.net/?p=3293#comment-2678 You know after reading your various interactions with your dad it sounds exactly like, in a way, he’s experiencing what happens in one of those common dreams where you’re back in school and know you have a big test and can’t find the room or haven’t studies- or forgot your pants- or other things like that ... or even the ones where you’re in what should be a familiar city but you can’t remember where you are or how to get somewhere or where you parked your car or if you even have one... that kind of thing. I don’t know what it means but the parallels appear to be there. Hang in there and value these days you have to kind of tie up all these loose ends while you still have him. I never got to do that with my dad- even though he was 83 when he died and he had been disoriented for a few years before that I had to do all that after he was gone and couldn’t ask any questions to organize things, both physical objects and my memories. You know after reading your various interactions with your dad it sounds exactly like, in a way, he’s experiencing what happens in one of those common dreams where you’re back in school and know you have a big test and can’t find the room or haven’t studies- or forgot your pants- or other things like that … or even the ones where you’re in what should be a familiar city but you can’t remember where you are or how to get somewhere or where you parked your car or if you even have one… that kind of thing. I don’t know what it means but the parallels appear to be there.

Hang in there and value these days you have to kind of tie up all these loose ends while you still have him. I never got to do that with my dad- even though he was 83 when he died and he had been disoriented for a few years before that I had to do all that after he was gone and couldn’t ask any questions to organize things, both physical objects and my memories.

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