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Repost: My mother’s memories of Haleiwa

In the months following the death of my mother, Helen Yonge Lind, in early 2013, just months before her 99th birthday, I found lots of interesting items in her jumbled collection of papers, including correspondence, typed or handwritten notes, photos, and miscellaneous newspaper clippings.

This is a slightly-edited version of an entry originally posted in November 2013. It describes time she spent living in Haleiwa as a girl.

She moved to Haleiwa with her father in 1922 after he took a job as a collector for Mutual Telephone Company, the predecessor of Hawaiian Telephone. My mother’s version of the story was that she was assigned to do housekeeping for her father.

Her older sister, Marguerite, stayed in Waipahu with their mother and their newborn brother.

They lived in Haleiwa for three years before her father was able to transfer back to a position in Waipahu, according to her notes.

Sometime after her 90th birthday in 2004, my mother sat down and typed out notes of what she recalled of that time.

For three years of my childhood in the 1920s, I lived in Haleiwa in the makai section close to the grand old Haleiwa Hotel and the Anahulu Bridge. Even at the tender age of 10, there was no mystery about the names. I understood perfectly that I lived in Haleiwa in the district of Waialua. The town that bore the name of the district Waialua was several miles distant surrounding the sugar mill and plantation housing. I doubt if that particular area was actually called Waialua before the advent of the plantation. When the plantations of Waialua, Waianae and Ewa were established, each was given the name of its district, not the Hawaiian place-name of the location.

Although located in Haleiwa, the Waialua District Court House and the Waialua Elementary School were so named because they served the entire district. That was the Waialua District court and the Waialua District school. Some of my school friends came every day from the banana farms of Kawaihapai and from Puuiki out beyond the Waialua mill. Next to the school, out on Kaiaka Point, was the Waialua Fresh Air Camp, now a state recreational area.

On the 1841 Wilkes map prepared by the U.S. Exploring expedition of 1838-1841, the various districts of Oahu are shown with Waialua extending across the entire North Shore.

Over the years some names of places have changed or new ones have been adopted. I don’t know when it happened, but Paumalu, the “beach of the sneaky waters,” disappeared and Sunset Beach entered the scene. Other place names well known years ago have been forgotten. Puuiki and Kawaihapi don’t even appear on current road maps.

It was many years ago, but I still recall a few of the names of people I knew in Haleiwa. My best friend and constant companion was Jenny Woodd, who became an entertainer and the grandmother of currently popular singer, Amy Hanaialii Gilliom. Jenny’s brother, Johnny Woodd, was a well known local swimmer in his day. There was John Kukea who chose the career of a fire fighter and a water sports enthusiast. One of his sons is connected with the Kamehameha Schools. Tommy Cleghorn sat behind me in the 5th grade and delighted in poking my back with sharpened pencils. He went on to Punahou and became an anthropologist with the Bishop Museum.

The Mahoe family lived on a rise beyond the Anahulu river. A granddaughter is Marie Adams McDonald, an artist and the author of the beautiful definitive book about the Hawaiian lei. Across the street from us was the Takahashi family. I don’t remember if they had a store, but I believe they were the owners of the community furo which I remember well. On a number of occasions, my sister and I donned our kimono, placed a bar of soap in our little bamboo baskets, grabbed a towel and trekked across the street to bathe and bask in the warm, soothing waters of the furo amongst people of all ages. The Laird family lived on the banks of the Anahulu near the old missionary Emerson house. Years later we met again when one of the daughters and I worked together in the same department at UH.

I wonder if many residents today are aware there was once a thriving glass bottom boat business owned and operated by a man named Jenkins. His boats that took paying customers out into the bay to view reef life were moored next to the bridge on the lowest slope of the hotel grounds. As far as I know, he was not married and left no descendants.

I have two outstanding memories of the area. One was a tidal wave around 1922-25. A couple ran up the street shouting, “the kai, the kai” (the sea, the sea) and people flocked to the beach. We stood on a high area above the sandy beach to watch. I have a mental picture of the water in the bay receding and then suddenly rising into a high wall of water pushing toward the shore. There weren’t any curling waves as portrayed in surfing films. The ocean seemed to just swell up and then move forward. Then someone hustled us inland so I did not see what happened next. Nor do I remember if there was any property damage.

Another vivid memory is one of ethereal beauty, the spectacular and captivating sight of the lotus ponds in full bloom. The scene was so impressive, it has remained with me through all the years.

Helen Y. Lind

Kahala

Seeking Mapala123

This is an example of the kind of small mysteries that continually arise as a result of DNA testing.

I’ve done DNA tests with several companies. My sister first pushed me to take a test with Family Tree DNA, which was for Y-DNA, that is passed down father to son, generation after generation. She was interested in the history of the Lind side of the family, which explained her interest in Y-DNA.

Later, again with her encouragement, I did additional testing of so-called “autosomal” DNA, which is inherited from both parents.

This question comes out of the DNA testing by Ancestry.com, considered the largest company doing consumer DNA tests.

Ancestry produces a list of people who match your DNA, with the amount and nature of the overlap, and the total amount of shared DNA.

Ancestry divides matches into several categories. The first is “Close Family.” There my list includes known relatives, a half-brother and half-sister; a couple of grand nieces; several children of my cousins; and one of my Lind grandmother’s relatives in Scotland. None of these were surprises or mysteries, and all reportedly share at least 5% of my DNA.

The next category is “Extended Family.” Most of those in this category share between 1% and 4% of DNA with me. The top match in this “extended family” category is a woman using the name “Mapala123.” Ancestry reports we are related on my maternal line.

She is followed by a known relative, a daughter of one of my paternal cousins in Long Beach, California, making her a 1st cousin 1x removed.

I share almost the same amount of DNA with each of these top extended family matches.

My relation to my cousin’s daughter is clear. My relation to Mapala123 is unknown, a complete mystery. Ancestry estimates we are 2nd cousins, based on the pattern of DNA overlap. That would mean that our grandparents were siblings. In my book, that’s a pretty close connection and should make it possible to identify Mapala and our family relationship.

That would be meaningful because knowing their identity could, in turn, help identify others who are a little more distant genetically. Each unknown that gets identified potentially leads to more discoveries.

But finding Mapala123 isn’t proving easy.

I’ve reached out through Ancestry’s messaging system, which enables ways to reach those who remain anonymous. No answer, which is not really surprising. Not many people check on their Ancestry messages. I know that I only very occasionally peek to see if I’ve gotten any new messages.

A search of Newspapers.com found the 1931 obituary of a Leonard Mapala published in the Honolulu Advertiser. He was born in Kaupo, Maui, in 1879. This is probably a hint, because the Hawaiian side of my mother’s family came from that area on Maui between Keanae and Kaupo. At the time of his death, he was reported to be a carpenter living in Kaimuki. A second newspaper story said Mapala had been sick and directed not to drink alcoholic beverages, but went on a binge despite the warning and died.

Another clipping shows Mapala was a 39-year old soldier who had been inducted into military service in 1918, according to a clipping in the Pacific Commercial Advertiser, and was reported as a deserter the following year.

My online search also turned up an essay by John Kelly Jr., son of the hawaii artist and a founder of the Save Our Surf organization in the 1960s which is credited with saving numerous surf breaks from destruction.

John and Kate Kelly’s son, John Kelly Jr., grew up as a Hawaiian boy, swimming, surfing, diving, fishing, and learning from the neighboring k?naka maoli, Native Hawaiians. This account was written about the man named Mapala, who, as a kupuna, mentor, and the boy’s adopted grandfather, taught John Jr., who he called Keoni, to fish and relate to the sea with respect and a deep reverence.

Kelly Jr. wrote about Mapala in an essay now available online, and Mapala was captured in some of the senior Kelly’s art:

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Mapala taught me all he knew about the sea, the moi, how to spot their fins in the swirling foam waters of Lae o Kupikipikio (Point of Spouting Waters, or Black Point). He showed me how to make heavy aho (cotton) nets with the Hawaiian knot for the rough waters, and light linen nets for ‘ama ‘ama (mullet) for inshore reef waters. He knew the comings and goings of inshore fishes according to moon cycles, tides and spawning seasons. He showed me where to pick opihi and ha’uke’uke (limpets), to catch the darting ‘a’ama (black crab) for uhu (parrotfish) bait.

Black Point, where Kelly’s adventures with Mapala took place, wasn’t far from a a lot near the beach in Kahala where my mother found a cousin who had been raised by his grandfather in or around Hana. Perhaps just a coincidence, I don’t know.

In any case, I’m grasping at straws here.

Any suggestions about how to find Mapala123 would be welcomed.

Remembering my favorite uncle

While doing some vacation browsing, I was reminded that September 23 was my favorite uncle’s birthday.

James Peterson Yonge was born on this date in 1921. He was the youngest of three children. The other two were my mother, Helen Yonge Lind, and her older sister, Marguerite Yonge Shipp. The family lived in Waipahu.

Jimmy (which in the family morphed into Jimi) was still living at home when Pearl Harbor was attacked in 1941, and drove the short distance to the shore in West Loch to find bullets flying, sending him racing home to report that this was not a drill.

He registered for the draft in February 1942. He was working for Mutual Telephone Company in a building on 9th Avenue in Kaimuki and living with my parents in their rented home at 1018 Kealaolu Avenue in Kahala, according to his draft card. He enlisted for a 4-year stint in the Navy in June 1942. When he was discharged, he joined the merchant marine, working his way up from doing books on freighters to eventually becoming the chief purser on the Matson cruise ship, the Mariposa, one of the well-known “white ships” that cruised the Pacific.

He married Ida Ruth Saylor in 1953, but I don’t believe they spent much time together over the years, as he spent most of his time at sea. The cruise ships eventually became part of Pacific Far East Lines, and Jimi was chief purser on the final voyage of the Monterey, which was the last of the white ships taken out of service at the beginning of 1978. He retired to Portola, California, in the mountains near the border with Nevada, although Ida maintained her residence in San Francisco. His sister, Marguerite, also took up residence in Portola after her husband died in 1984.

Jimi told us he always felt uncomfortable when he found himself on land, and couldn’t wait to get back to sea to escape all the politics and bickering. We never sought details of his unconventional marriage, as both he and Ida seemed comfortable with their arrangement.

When I was a kid, a visit from Uncle Jimi was a big treat. My mother’s dog, Kiki, would go crazy when we came into the house, remembering when he had lived with my parents briefly at the beginning of 1942. And Jimi would arrive with friends, usually Kent Bowman (known for his pigeon-english comedy as “K.K. Kaumanua”) and another friend from freighter days, Billy Bruns. These guys were world-class story tellers as well as world-class drinkers, and my sister and I would stay to hear their stories for as long as we were allowed.

Later, when Meda and I were in graduate school at the University of Hawaii, we spent a number of long nights drinking at the Queen’s Surf or other venues with Jimi when his ship was in port.

I last saw him was in late 1989. My late sister, Bonnie, her husband, Ray Stevens, and I drove up from Reno for a day visiting with our aunt and uncle. Meda was busy at a criminology conference back in Reno, so the three of us drove north from Reno about 25 miles, then through the Beckwourth Pass into California, then another 20 miles to Portola.

It should have been no surprise to find Jimi was a familiar and popular figure in the local tavern, where his story-telling continued to entertain his friends.

He died in 1994 at 73, far too young in my view. A year or so later, my dad took Bonnie, Ray, and I out on his boat, and we scattered Jimi’s ashes off the Diamond Head buoy. Later, the cremains of Ray, Bonnie, and my mother all joined him in that spot.

A birth announcement

Here’s an item I shared on Facebook, and the positive reaction leads me to reposts it here.

Still digging through old scans, I came across this 78-year old telegram that my dad sent to his mother in Long Beach, California, letting her know about the birth of his son.

The cable was brief and to the point. It did not go further to explain that I entered the world two months prematurely, and at that time my mother’s physician advised my parents not to select a name immediately, because that would make it more difficult emotionally if I didn’t survive. And, at least based on that advice, it would seem that the odds of survival were not in my favor. Perhaps that back story was included in the letter that followed. I don’t know.

Think about how different the world was then. No instant text messaging. No phone in your pocket capable of inexpensive international calls. At that time, even a brief telephone call to announce a birth to your parents was prohibitively expensive!

This message cost $5.75 to send.

According to the all-knowing internet, that would be just over $83 in 2025 dollars.

I’ll bet today’s college students have no clue that long-distance communications relied on this and other long-gone methods.

According to an online history of cable communications, Commercial Pacific Cable Company was a collaboration founded in 1901.

The Commercial Pacific Cable Company was formed by a collaboration of the Commercial Cable Company, the Great Northern Telegraph Company, and the Eastern Telegraph Company, with the goal of laying a cable across the Pacific Ocean from America’s west coast.

Founded in 1901, the company provided the first direct telegraph route from America to the Philippines, China, and Japan. Prior to this, messages had to travel across the Atlantic to the Far East via Capetown and the Indian Ocean, or via London to Russia, then across the Russian landline to Vladivostock, then by submarine cable to Japan and the Philippines.

The same history notes that the link between San Francisco and Honolulu was “the first and most significant section,” and was laid down in 1902.

The company ceased operations in October 1951 and was merged into AT&T.

Google’s AI explained several reasons why telegrams have not yet completely disappeared.

Why telegrams are still sent

Legal Purposes:
Telegrams are a strong, legally recognized document for matters like contract cancellations or other legal notifications because the service keeps a time-stamped copy for verification in court.

Formal Communication:
They are considered a formal way to send important messages and are seen as more official than emails or text messages, notes Quora.

Special Occasions:
Telegrams are used to mark significant social events like weddings, graduations, or to express sympathy for deaths, offering a unique and memorable way to celebrate or express feelings.

Urgency and Importance:
They are still considered the “gold standard” for urgent, official, or significant messages, notes Atlas Obscura.

How telegrams are sent today
Online ordering: Most services allow you to order and send a telegram online.
Hand-delivery: The message is still printed on paper and hand-delivered to the recipient’s door, often in a sealed envelope.

Company services: Companies like International Telegram, American Telegram, and others operate the former Western Union network, providing the infrastructure for these messages to be sent across the globe.